by Cristy C, who still has a terrific sense of humor
content notes for rape, violence and foul language
“And guess what, knuckleheads? I’ve already been raped. AND I’M STILL FUCKING HERE. So your rape wishes are as pointless as they are cruel.” @Shakestweetz (Melissa McEwan). Used with permission.
My post from the other day about Daniel Tosh encouraging members of his audience to rape a woman at his show for laughs got a lot of attention. Exponentially more attention than anything else on UpRoot. The Huffington Post linked to it on their article about “Toshgate”, which certainly amped up our traffic.
As part of this attention, I received a comment on the blog that stated, “I hope you get raped.” And that was just the first comment from this person, who left several more hateful comments. This blog is moderated, and has a specific commenting policy, so his comments were never published. But we have them saved. One of my co-workers researched his IP address and he was sending these threats to me from his employer’s offices. We are working to find contact information so that we can let his employer know that this happened. I am sure they don’t want their employees sending rape threats on company time. Or at all, really.
Another blogger linked to my post and said, “Someone needs to rape a sense of humor into that c*nt.”
My personal email address was shut down after repeated hacking attempts from anonymous far-flung IP addresses. My personal Twitter was also shut down, for similar reasons.
Daniel Tosh tried to make joke out of rape, and when someone protested, he shut her down with a threat of rape, which was not a joke but actual violence. When I, as well as other feminist bloggers, spoke up in support of this woman, we were threatened with rape to shut us down. It is ironic (and not in the cute hipster irony, but in the real deal kind), that the complaint many of Tosh’s supporters are making is that we are trampling on his creative process or freedom of expression by expecting him to be a decent human being. And they are using violent and cruel rape rhetoric to try to get us to shut up. We can’t use our freedom of speech to say, “What Daniel Tosh said crossed the line, and here’s why” but he, and his supporters, can use their freedom of speech to annihilate our humanity. IRONY!
This is rape culture in such an obvious example that it cannot be denied-in fact, I have been asked if it the blog and the rape threats can be used in a sociology class to explain rape culture. Of course, there will be deniers, the usual suspects, who will re-up the violent and threatening words.
I need you to bear witness to this. Please do not ignore that this happens in my life, in the lives of thousands of women every day. The threat of rape is real when we live in a rape culture.
I am still here. In spite of the rape threats, I am not shutting up. These anonymous men, and their Rat King Daniel Tosh, will not shut me down. Their hatefulness strengthens my feminist will.
I have received far more support in the last few days than anything else. I’ve had kindness and respect sent my way from all over the world, and I could never express enough gratitude to all of those folks. People whom I hold in high esteem sent me words of encouragement, and that superseded all of the hate. I am fortunate to have had so many reminders of how much I matter when there are menacing punks who want to tell me I don’t.
I am still here, and I still matter. Your words were cruel, but also undeniably pointless.
Check out some more great writing on Toshgate at Shakesville.